An old workaround for `std::allocator_traits<>::value_type` lints from
IWYU on `std::vector<>` usage breaks IWYU's handling of `<memory>`.
Convert the workaround to use the same approach we already use for a
workaround of `std::__decay_and_strip<>::::__type` lints. Then update
the `<memory>` inclusions to follow the now-correct IWYU lints.
